If You’re Seeking Community, Be Prepared for Accountability


I recently made a new friend. She’s been struggling with finding real, authentic community. One night I hung out with her and her boyfriend, and we had a great conversation. We did the whole “get to know you” thing: How old are you? How many people are in your family? How long have you and your boyfriend been dating? What part of town do you live in? Do you have roommates?

It was all fine and dandy until that last question. The night was coming to a close, and she told me she didn’t have any roommates. As it turns out, that wasn’t exactly the truth. After we parted ways, she called me to tell me she hadn’t been honest about her living situation. She does have a roommate — her boyfriend. During the hour-long conversation to follow, I was able to share my thoughts on God’s heart for purity, holiness and marriage. I shared some scripture with her and some revelations I’ve received from observing different friends’ relationships. Though my advice wasn’t condemning in the least, the Holy Spirit was convicting her. She talked about her conflicting feelings regarding the situation, confessing how hard it is to follow Christ in this area.

The next day, I texted her several verses; they were only meant as an encouragement, a prompt for her to consider and pray through. A couple of days later she texted to tell me she was offended by the Scriptures and felt I was judging her and her boyfriend. I apologized if she received it that way (but I will never apologize for speaking the truth of Scripture).


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Singleness and Hardship


At 36 and single, I’m feeling okay about life. I was never the girl that dreamed of marriage. However, by this age I assumed I would be married with kids. Most days I don’t think about being single; it’s just what my life is. But there are some days when I find myself thinking about it often. The past couple of months have been a string of those days.

I live in Baton Rouge. In case you’re not aware, there was a serious flood here in August. It completely devastated my city and the surrounding areas. There are about 200,000 people who have been affected in one way or another. I, unfortunately am one of those people. I’ve lost most of my furniture, my home and my vehicle. As you can imagine, this season has been beyond overwhelming. In the midst of all the chaos, I’ve thought many times how husband sure would be handy. Not handy in the sense that he would fix everything — although I’m not opposed to that! — but more that I’d have someone to walk through this hardship with.

I know God is always with me, but sometimes I need a tangible reminder, a flesh and blood person to hug and cry with. The season isn’t the only difficult one I’ve navigated alone, but it has been one of the most devastating. It seems as though every time I turn around, I’m dealing with some new consequence from the flood.

Honestly, it’s exhausting. I’m physically, mentally and spiritually drained. I’d like to come home to someone who understands and who’s with me every step of the way. But, I don’t have that, and I don’t know if I’ll ever have that. So, where does that leave me? And if you’re in a similar position, where does that leave you?


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