Single Life Workshop, Part 4


Every session of the Single Life Workshop gets better and better. Session four was all about shame. Shame is not a fun, feel-good topic. But it is one of those topics that, if left unaddressed, can devastate a relationship.

Shame makes intimacy scary. Can I get an “amen”?

Shame builds walls and creates false narratives in our minds. Shame often convinces us that God and others couldn’t possibly love us if they knew the “real” us — if they knew all our past sins. That couldn’t be further from the truth, but it’s the lie we believe so much of the time. And the enemy loves it when we do; he can then keep us isolated, hopeless, and full of despair.

I love the story of the Samaritan woman. After Jesus lovingly calls out her sin, He leads her to forgiveness and grace. She then runs into town and says to everyone, “Come, see a man who told me all that I ever did. Can this be the Christ?” She looked into the face of Christ and felt love like she had never known before. She didn’t feel condemnation or judgment, shame or fear. She felt understood and forgiven.

God is the same with us today. He views us with nothing short of love and acceptance. We cannot earn God’s love; He loves us for who we are.

Shame tries to keep us from being ourselves. When we are caught up in shame, we act out of who we think we are in our sin. We act unworthy, unlovable and hopeless. We don’t tap into any of our gifts or potential.

Trust what God has put inside of you. We were made in the very image of the triune God. We were created to be living testimonies of His kindness, rescue, salvation, love and redemption.

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The Single Life Workshop, Part 2



As I mentioned in a recent post, not long ago my friend Sara launched a local workshop for singles under the covering of her church and pastor. I signed up right away, and am eager to share what I’m learning with you.

We recently completed session two. I absolutely adored it; the teaching was beyond eye-opening. It was all about living a “nothing hidden” lifestyle in relationships. A married couple shared their experience of when they began dating, and lessons they learned.

The teaching started off back in the garden with Adam and Eve. When sin entered the world, so did shame and guilt and hiding and feelings of not being good enough. There, understanding was opened and they saw their nakedness. They were ashamed of not only what they had done, but who they were.

Sadly, we have carried that shame with us. We carry it into every space and every relationship in our lives. We don’t intend to live this way, but so often we do. It leads to tremendous damage in our relationships.

So does the tongue. There are countless verses about the tongue. It houses much more power than we think or remember. I know I can forget or underestimate its power. I can be careless with my words. I can be flippant and even hurtful sometimes. That kind of speech will never make for a successful relationship of any kind.

The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, but the mouths of fools pour out folly. Proverbs 15:2

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