If You’re Seeking Community, Be Prepared for Accountability


I recently made a new friend. She’s been struggling with finding real, authentic community. One night I hung out with her and her boyfriend, and we had a great conversation. We did the whole “get to know you” thing: How old are you? How many people are in your family? How long have you and your boyfriend been dating? What part of town do you live in? Do you have roommates?

It was all fine and dandy until that last question. The night was coming to a close, and she told me she didn’t have any roommates. As it turns out, that wasn’t exactly the truth. After we parted ways, she called me to tell me she hadn’t been honest about her living situation. She does have a roommate — her boyfriend. During the hour-long conversation to follow, I was able to share my thoughts on God’s heart for purity, holiness and marriage. I shared some scripture with her and some revelations I’ve received from observing different friends’ relationships. Though my advice wasn’t condemning in the least, the Holy Spirit was convicting her. She talked about her conflicting feelings regarding the situation, confessing how hard it is to follow Christ in this area.

The next day, I texted her several verses; they were only meant as an encouragement, a prompt for her to consider and pray through. A couple of days later she texted to tell me she was offended by the Scriptures and felt I was judging her and her boyfriend. I apologized if she received it that way (but I will never apologize for speaking the truth of Scripture).


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