Longing For Safe People {Long}

Unmet longings invade every aspect of our lives and span the length of time. They may or may not be fulfilled. They may or not even be recognized.

During the Allume conference this past weekend, a key message by Sophie Hudson opened my eyes to a longing that I didn’t know that I had..a longing for safe people. This longing is not something unattainable. It can be totally met if I let God lead the way. See, I tend to be crazy independent and self-sufficient. It’s how I have always been. I’ve never had that close group of friends, a clique, if you will. I am a little bit of a gypsy. I jump from group to group. So, I know a myriad of people on an acquaintance level.


But, that needs to stop. I am learning that I need to put down some roots in community. I am delighted to say that it is happening…in real life and online.


In 1 Thessalonians 3, Timothy visits the church on behalf of Paul. From him, the church hears of Paul’ s love for them, kind words about them and his longing to see them. They longed to see Paul just as much. That is a deep well of friendship right there. Paul was a safe person to this church body and they were a safe place for him. This was only possible because their foundation was Christ.


I need safe people.

I need safe places.

I need to be a safe person.

I need to create a safe place.


The Lord longs to cultivate that in us and place us in these safe communities. That’s His design. That’s His heartbeat.



Do you have safe people? Are you a safe person?








4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. karrileea
    Oct 29, 2014 @ 17:39:13

    Amen! I love this, my friend!


  2. kaina allen
    Oct 30, 2014 @ 08:48:57

    Thank you friend!!!!


  3. onerebelheart
    Nov 06, 2014 @ 18:13:44

    So, so true! I struggle with making strong connections online. I “know” a lot of people but am not close with very many at all.


    • karina
      Nov 07, 2014 @ 12:26:02

      Thank you for reading and sharing! I am actually the opposite in many ways. My real life people are always so busy. So, often it’s hard for me to go deeper with them. Some of my deepest friendships are with my online friends. I guess we don’t waste time with fluffy conversations. We just get right to the deep things.

      Praying that God brings a few deep relationships in real life and online. Community is His heart. It’s important.


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