The Heart Of Mentorship:: an (in)RL 2013 Recap

So, this past weekend, I participated in an online web cast called (in)RL (which stands for in Real Life) hosted by the lovely community of (in)courage. ( I have been a part of this community for the past year and a half. Honestly, it is one of the best things that God has done in my life! The idea behind this web cast is to lead women beyond the computer screen of blogs and comments and into the lives of real friends through meet ups.

On Saturday morning, I had a great work out. I showered and decided to grab some coffee before heading over to my friend Amy’s house for our meet up. When I arrived at the coffee shop, one of my youth girls from church called out to me. We hugged and then she proceeded to pour her heart out to me about all of her boy “drama”. She is 16, smart, beautiful, loves Jesus, has a servant’s heart and has so much potential. She has never felt the way she does about a guy before.  He is older and has shown her tons of interest. He also has some very adult issues that he is dealing with. She told me how she let her guard down a bit and shared some personal information with him. He then proceeded to back away from her. Needless to say, her heart is broken. That broke my heart. I see glimpses of the young woman that God is molding her into. He has such purpose and destiny for her. My prayer is that she will fall deeply in love with Christ and not get distracted by the cares of this world. During our hour-long conversation, I did my best to let God speak through me. I shared with her about staying focused on the great plans that God has for her, about guarding her heart and the dangers of getting caught up in the desires of our flesh. It was such a divine appointment for us to connect that day. I know that God spoke truth, love, direction and encouragement to her. It was an honor to be used.

After I left the coffee shop, I headed over to my friend Amy’s house ( This friendship actually came about out of last years’ (in)RL meet up. She was supposed to host but had to cancel due to family illness. We were in contact through Facebook for months. Then we connected in real life last fall. We hit it off! This is a friendship that I treasure dearly. She is such a big sister to me. Amy has such wisdom, knowledge and a love for God. She has a great heart and desire to see others grow in their relationship with God. She is very willing to be open and honest in order for others to learn from her mistakes and experiences. She encourages me and challenges me. Our meet up this year was at her house. We both invited people but no one showed up. It was totally okay because it was totally how the Lord wanted it. We ate cupcakes and watched the videos on the challenge to stay in community and mentoring. We talked for hours!!!! That happens a lot when we are together. 🙂

Mentorship is the overflow of community. When you build strong community, mentorship will happen.

The videos on mentoring struck a deep chord in me. That is my heartbeat! Everyone, in every season of life, should have people who are further along in their walk with Christ speaking into their lives and also have others whose lives that they are speaking into. The Lord was so gracious to me that day in showing me the very definition of mentorship in my life. Community is one of my passions! Pouring into the next generation is another! I know that I am walking out His purpose for me when I am part of community. I feel His delight and His approval. That fills my heart with such joy! I always want to live out of a desire to please God alone.

Who is speaking encouragement into your life?

Whose life are you speaking encouragement into?


6 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. seespeakhearmama
    Apr 30, 2013 @ 21:30:44

    this was lovely and such a testament to the fulfillment of your be used as a mentor and be mentored. God’s grace on you as you so willingly walk with Him. Blessings are sure to follow you. if you haven’t already you should add this post to the link-up at many would be blessed to read this.


  2. agbayliss
    May 01, 2013 @ 16:08:13

    I love you, sweet girl! I’m so glad we got to spend the day together. I can’t wait to do it again! (((Hugs)))


  3. (in)courage
    May 04, 2013 @ 01:39:48

    Love that you were mentoring before watching those videos. 🙂


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